We use the word miscarry. But have you ever read the definition of “mis?” I have… it means “badly,” “wrongly” “lack of” and “not.”
So what does miscarry mean then? Badly-carry, wrongly-carry, lack of carrying…? No, that can’t be right.
“Not to carry” a baby any longer… physically perhaps. But I have also carried them in other ways since the day I found out I was pregnant, the moment I saw the heartbeat, in the cravings, the nausea, the sleepless nights when I could no longer comfortably lie belly-down… and then every single day since I lost them one year ago, today.
It’s not either/or to me. Carry or miscarry. No. The act of carrying may be invisible to others, but I still feel the weight of the load everywhere I go.
Just one single friend wished me happy Mother’s day this year. You know who you are and I know that you get it too ❤️ And everyone else who has experienced similar loss, I see you.
We will always carry. Because there’s more than one way.
